Traveling Mercies – Some Thoughts on Faith by Anne Lamott

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Traveling Mercies – Some Thoughts on Faith

by
Anne Lamott

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It isn’t easy to categorize this memoir about personal growth and faith.  I had not read anything by Lamott before my book club friend chose Traveling Mercies, which was published in 1999.  Lamott is an Amercian novelist and nonfiction writer.  Her first nonfiction book, Operating Instructions:  A Journal of My Son’s First Year, was published in 1993.  Lamott’s most recent novel, Imperfect Birds was published in 2010 and her most recent nonfiction, Small Victories: Spotting Improbable Moments of Grace was published in 2013.

Born and raised in San Francisco, Lamott grew up in an unhappy home as a middle child in the 1960s and by thirteen, she and her friends were drinking and using drugs regularly.  Her parents were both free spirited, non-religious intellectuals and, as a girl, she felt the comfort of community in many of her friends’ religions.  She found her anchor in the St. Andrew Presbyterian Church in San Francisco, but she battled depression, alcoholism, drug abuse and bulimia for many years, returning to St. Andrew’s to make sense of her struggles.

The subject is heavy, but Lamott writes with honest humor.  She openly shares her weaknesses, failures, fears and bad judgement, not to preach or convert, but to tell the story of her journey as a single mother with a lot of issues.  Her faith is highly personalized, tweaked to help her through difficult decisions and feelings of inadequacy.

Lamott adored her father, Kenneth Lamott, who was a writer and literary figure and a central figure in her life.  His diagnosis of brain cancer and death at age fifty-six was a major blow to Lamott.  She wrote Hard Laughter, her first published novel, as a tribute to him.

Traveling Mercies is an excellent read.  The book’s appeal lies in its accepting and non-judgemental delivery.  Lamott isn’t sending a message.  She is telling us what works for her.  I recommend Traveling Mercies to anyone who is interested in personal growth and in understanding relationships.

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A God in Ruins by Kate Atkinson

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A God in Ruins

by
Kate Atkinson

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How do you reconcile the things you do during a war with how you live when it’s all over? Can you make up for what you did? This is the conflict that becomes Teddy Todd’s personal war in Kate Atkinson’s terrific book, A God in Ruins, a companion to her equally terrific book, Life After Life.

Life After Life is a “what if” story, showing the different paths and possible outcomes for Teddy’s sister, Ursula, during World War II. A God in Ruins is about Teddy and his role as an RAF pilot during its bombing campaign over Germany. You can read them independently, but I think it’s better to read Life After Life first.

Both books are ambitious reads and can’t be rushed. A God in Ruins, however, is a different kind of story, and examines Teddy’s life during and after the war. Atkinson also introduces Teddy’s wife, Nancy and their daughter, Viola and her children, Sunny and Bertie, taking the reader to the present day. As in Life After Life, this story includes a lot of time jumps and requires careful reading. But the central story revolves around one path in Teddy’s life and his role as a husband, father and grandfather.

It’s hard to explain how this story goes without spoilers, but I can tell you this: Atkinson has a beautiful writing style that creates a reading experience like no other. From the beginning, her description of the Todd family puts the reader right in the middle of their home at Fox Corner, and with the neighboring Shawcross sisters. When the war breaks out, Teddy announces he wants to fly planes, a wartime career of exceptional leadership that defines and haunts him his entire life.

The most important theme in A God in Ruins is the war and the things people must do during this time. Can you be at peace with dropping bombs? Can you make up for “the dreadful moral compromise that war imposed upon you?” Teddy deliberately chose how to live after the war – “he resolved that he would try always to be kind. It was the best he could do. It was all that he could do.” But these choices do not guarantee happiness.

As in Life After Life, flowers, trees and animals, especially foxes, hares, dogs and birds, play an important part in the characters’ lives and suggest a strong spiritual connection with nature, including the idea of reincarnation. These ideas tie into her characters’ doubts of faith during wartime. Ursula puts it just right when she says, “There’s a spark of the divine in the world – not God, we’re done with God, but something. Is it love? Not silly romantic love, but something more profound…?”

I loved every word of this book, but here’s what I loved best about A God in Ruins:

  • Teddy’s character – especially how he quietly takes care of the people in his life. His leadership of his flight crew shows how much he cares about the people around him. But his character has this great moral dilemma – he and his crew are killing innocent people, but the distance removes them from reality. Can you blame them? They’re fighting the enemy. After the war, Teddy’s love for his grandchildren comes before everything, but Atkinson throws a curveball at Teddy’s character, something that may change the reader’s opinion..
  • Sunny’s character – Atkinson reveals it bit by bit and the reader comes to understand him by the end of the story.
  • Viola’s transformation – reading about things from her perspective changes everything. Saving her point of view to the end forces the reader to completely reconsider her character.
  • The appearance of Ursula’s dog, “Lucky” from Life After Life. It’s great to see him in this story too!
  • I like how Atkinson also shows the important role that women played during the war. Many worked as pilots transporting planes, truck drivers, translators, mathematicians, decoders and nurses.
  • Atkinson shows small details about her side characters, hinting about stories and scenarios that the reader can imagine taking place in the background. This is especially true with her descriptions of Hugh and Sylvie and their marriage.
  • She makes a small jab about the Eat, Pray, Love craze – enjoyed that very much!
  • Her description of the moment of death – its effect on family members who are far apart, how they can sense it, on nature, on the world, and on what’s next.

A God in Ruins ends in a surprising twist. It has left me wondering, but I’m thinking that’s just what the author wanted! Have you read A God in Ruins? What did you think? Did you like the ending?

If you liked this review, click here to read my review of Life After Life.

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If I Stay by Gayle Forman

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If I Stay
by
Gayle Forman

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If you’re on the brink of death, do you get to decide which way to go? Is it up to you? Which world pulls you harder? Your life on earth or what awaits beyond? Mia, seventeen, finds herself in this very situation in If I Stay. As the only survivor of a car accident in which her parents and younger brother are killed, Mia is clinging to life in the hospital. A nurse whispers that it’s up to her to decide.

If I Stay is a Young Adult teen drama that takes a look at the possibility of making powerful decisions at a person’s weakest mortal moment. Something resembling the spirit of the gravely injured Mia watches over as her grandparents, friends, and boyfriend Adam wait and worry. Gayle Forman uses this spirit-like version of Mia to tell the backstory of Mia and her family and of her teen romance with Adam.

I enjoyed reading If I Stay because of this interesting suggestion, of being able to control your destiny. It’s a fast read that focuses on family, friendship and love. Despite the semi-spiritual theme, this is not a deep-thinking book, but I think you have to make a conscious decision, early on, to go with the roll of the book and its plot. The whole story has an exaggerated looseness about it which may irritate some readers.

Mia is a gifted cello player, a senior in high school, hoping to be accepted at Julliard. Dad’s an ex-punk rocker and Mom’s a former punk rock groupie. Adam is a modern punk rocker whose band Shooting Star is about to make it big. Teddy’s the little brother. Music holds this group together and there are many references to songs, bands and the punk rock era. This may seem a little unlikely, but you have to commit to all this if you want to finish the book.

Certain parts of the book strike me as unrealistic, specifically the characterization of Mia’s parents, who are extremely liberal and loose with rules and don’t act at all like parents. They immediately embrace Mia’s romance with Adam, with no reservations and enthusiastically encourage their daughter to jump right in, giving her all kinds of freedom. I wonder how many parents would allow their teen daughter to have sleepovers with her boyfriend or to stay out all night. In addition, the hospital scene is a little wild, with attempts to sneak into the ICU, including using a singer from the fictitious band Bikini as a decoy. Also unlikely is a family friend who happens to be a nurse at a different hospital and is somehow able to take charge of the entire ICU, allowing unauthorized visits, in the name of love.

Smaller details that don’t fit take away from the story. The author makes references to several classic reads, including To Kill a Mockingbird, one of my favorites. This is a book I never would have read or understood as an eleven-year-old, but in this story it marks the beginning of Mia’s friendship with Kim in sixth grade. The two girls argue about whether to focus on racism or people’s goodness for their school project on the book.  Mia admits in her narration that she was not a particularly good student so it surprises me that this is the book Forman chooses to use. It seems a little contrived. A later reference to Lord of the Flies also seems forced and unnecessary.

Although it’s not exactly clear when the story takes place, references to cell phones and the internet make it a modern read. So it doesn’t make sense when one of the cousins sits in the waiting area playing on a Gameboy. It’s a good example of how risky it is to use technology references. That handheld game system was popular in the 80s and 90s and is a dinosaur compared to the game apps kids play now!

I did enjoy the book, however, and I think the author raises an interesting question and ties this central theme together with a nice story about teen love. I think the strongest part of the story is near the end, when Mia’s grandparents visit her bedside. With her grandparents and later with Adam, Forman does a nice job imagining how someone who is unconscious may still be able to hear and understand.

So if you’re in the mood for a bit of a tear-jerker, and some good emotional bonding scenes, pick this up before you see the movie. The movie looks pretty good to me!

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Book Review: We Are Water by Wally Lamb

We Are Water
by
Wally Lamb

Wally Lamb has written an ambitious book about abuse and how, over time and generations, the range of effects widens like the circles from a pebble in the pond. We Are Water is a novel with many characters and many themes in a rotating narrative, told from the points of view of the main players in the book.

Simply put, the story is about fifty-something Annie Oh, an angry artist who has left her husband, Orion, to marry Viveca, another woman. But this story is anything but simple. As Orion and their three grown children react and adjust to this development, a dense array of secrets and family dysfunction emerges and the story becomes a massive and painful tale in which each character struggles to find happiness.  There is also a bit of a thriller and suspense element and that keeps the story moving.

In addition to abuse, it’s a story with a multitude of themes: art and expression, family, gay marriage, prejudice and acceptance, religion, relationships, desertion, anger, family heritage, alcoholism, a little political commentary, and, of course water. The water theme begins with the devastating events surrounding the actual Norwich, Connecticut flood of 1963, in which the dam at Norwich’s largest park collapsed and flooded four square miles, killing six people.

But as the plot develops, We Are Water’s main focus becomes verbal, physical and sexual abuse and their far-reaching effects. Lamb’s characters attempt to explain and justify what they do in the wake of this abuse. Annie uses art as a release and her creations result in violent displays of things and people. Her art has been recently discovered and is highly valued, but most likely misunderstood. She becomes a cyclone during her creative efforts, but her family has suffered, especially her son, Andrew, who has borne the brunt of her suppressed anger.

I like stories about families and conflict. Because of that, I like many things about this book, but not everything. Some of Lamb’s characters are very difficult to like and that makes their narrations less appealing. For example, Annie’s adult character is difficult to know. She’s self-centered and it’s hard to know why she’s about to marry Viveca. Yet young Annie is sweet and charming and you want to protect her. Similarly, but with a much more uncomfortable reader experience, Kent Kelly’s story begins innocently. He’s a victim first and then he’s a hero in the flood. By showing Kent as a boy, Lamb tries to explain, but not justify, Kent’s teenage and adult behavior. Personally, I’m not interested in getting into Kent’s head. It’s not a matter of how he came to be a monster. It’s a matter of the damage he creates. I think this section is overdeveloped and over-explained. It’s more than rough to read and it’s too sympathetic of the character. That said, maybe Lamb is accurate in describing someone like Kent, a sick charmer who ultimately pays the price.

I like Orion’s character the best. He’s certainly the most likeable. It’s easy to sympathize with him because he’s misunderstood and he tries to do the right thing. He’s also the most realistic character.  Not always, however, because sometimes I think his conversations with the adult Marissa, Andrew and Ariane are overly open and unrealistic. Just sayin’.

Here are some other things I like about We Are Water:

  • Lamb’s storytelling style. His characters take turns giving part of the story, introducing facts and events, then another character cycles back to include more details.
  • The section about the flood is the strongest part of the book.
  • I like stories about old houses and the things that are hidden inside.
  • Characters who try to make sense of the bad things in the world. Ruth Fletcher, a flawed character, but one with surprising depth, says,

I’m down on my knees now, asking God why, if He’s merciful, He had to put so much meanness in the world He made. Weasels pounce, snakes bite, dams break, men kill other men. And why would a merciful God let a little child’s mother die?

Despite the dark subject, Lamb tries to end on a hopeful note. The ending reminds me of movies with tragic events, in which the survivors, beaten down, but not quite finished, look towards a hopeful future.  Orion has adjusted to his future, but Andrew faces a difficult decision. As Andrew’s tattoo suggests, “Love wins,” and Orion answers, “No matter which way our lives turn out. Right?”

This is my fourth Wally Lamb book. All in all, a mixed bag, with some good spots.  Have you read We Are Water?  What did you think?  I have always enjoyed Lamb’s books, but this one leaves me puzzled.

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Book Review: Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë

Jane Eyre
by
Charlotte Brontë

Rating: 5 out of 5.

I don’t know how to review Jane Eyre because I’m sure every point in every other review has been covered. So instead, I’m going to tell you what I like about this classic and, in my mind, flawless book.

First of all, I like how the story is constructed and how each section, as Jane moves to a new place, also marks a change in her character. I like how Jane is portrayed as a young girl at Gateshead and how she rises above the conditions at Lowood. I like seeing how she develops her own set of principles and a modern sense of self there, standards that help carry her through the challenges at Thornfield and beyond. Themes of religion, social class and independence are built right into the characters and their beliefs and blend perfectly with this excellent plot.

I have always loved reading books with plots that revolve around old houses with many rooms and mysterious features. Thornfield Hall is a perfect example of a house like this. Who wouldn’t wonder what is going on up on the third floor? But the other homes in Jane Eyre are great too. Gateshead, with its interesting curtained window seat and the cozy warmth and simple furnishings at Moor House describe two different ways of living. The dark façade of the Lowood School immediately warns the reader of trying times inside. Equally thrilling is the crumbling house at Ferndean, surrounded by shadowy trees, just right for that scene.

The story of Grace Poole and Bertha and the secret behind the upstairs noises and disruptions are whopping plot developments. Every time I reach this part I’m amazed at Brontë’s imagination and how she is able to pull it off. This element of surprise takes the story to another exciting level.

I also really enjoy reading books that build the forces of nature into the plots and this happens throughout the story. I especially like the section that describes Jane as she flees Thornfield and the chapters while she is lost and destitute in the moors. Jane, though desperate for someone to save her, expresses both a resolve to survive and an acceptance of her fate. I think this must be a realistic way of thinking for someone on the brink of death.

I think the hints of a distant relative and the mysterious feeling between Jane and the Rivers siblings is another great plot development and I enjoyed figuring out the connection between Jane and these new friends.

Most of all, I love the relationship between Mr. Rochester and Jane! It’s so fun reading their conversations and seeing them play off each other.  Mr. Rochester’s imposing personality is no match for Jane and it just feels right to cheer them on. This to me is the standard of all other romantic relationships portrayed after Jane Eyre was written.

One of my favorite scenes in the book occurs early, when Jane, just before she leaves for Lowood, reads her Aunt Reed the riot act. I felt sorry for Jane as a young girl at Gateshead and hearing her tell her aunt a thing or two feels just right. But my favorite scene is at the end because of the terrific release of so many worries and so much sorrow. To find happiness after seemingly endless struggles and catastrophes is a great way to end the tale.

This is another excellent book, well worth your time.

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Short story review from: The Best American Short Stories 1994 – “The Mail Lady” by David Gates

 Welcome to an occasional feature on Book Club Mom. Short reviews of short fiction. This selection comes from the 1994 edition of The Best American Short Stories, edited by Tobias Wolff.

“The Mail Lady”
by
David Gates

Lewis Coley is trapped.  He is recovering from a stroke and, after forty years of marriage, his wife Alice is his caretaker, trying to interpret his imperfect speech, coaxing him out of bed, encouraging him to do what he can.  But he suspects she is already thinking, planning for a time when she will be on her own.

Lewis narrates his thoughts, perfectly articulate, sarcastic, bitter and cynical, and these thoughts are in stark contrast to his efforts at speech, which Alice frequently misunderstands.  We learn, through these thoughts, about the strains in their marriage, about his religious transformation, about their daughter Wylie, who is far away in Seattle.

Their mail lady is strong, manly, “a movie cowboy,” and in full command.  She drives a big pickup truck, is known for pulling cars out of the deep New Hampshire snow and she represents everything Lewis cannot do anymore.  For Lewis, the smallest tasks take massive mental and physical effort.

It’s very easy to understand Lewis’ feelings of futility as he sits alone in their car, stuck deep in the mud at the end of their driveway, a result of Alice’s inexperienced attempts to get them out and Lew’s efforts to instruct her. While Alice goes back to the house, he has nothing to do but think and wait and wonder what form of rescue will come to him.

This is a dark kind of read and it left me in a thinking mood.  Gates is great at describing Lewis Coley’s feelings and frustrations.  I think the ending can be interpreted as positive, but there’s a hint of sarcasm that makes me wonder.

David Gates was born in 1947 and is an American journalist and writer of short fiction and novels.  Until 2008 he was the senior editor and writer in Newsweek’s Arts section.  His first novel Jernigan was published in 1991 and was a Pulitzer Prize finalist and a finalist for the National Book Critics Circle Award.  Other works include Preston Falls (1998) and The Wonders of the Invisible World (1999).  His short stories have appeared in Esquire, Gentlemen’s Quarterly, Grand Street, The New Yorker, Newsweek, Ploughshares, Rolling Stone, and TriQuarterly.  He currently teaches writing at The University of Montana.

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Mennonite in a Little Black Dress by Rhoda Janzen

MennoniteMennonite in a Little Black Dress
by
Rhoda Janzen

Rating:
3 book marks

This memoir has some very funny sections poking fun at the author’s family and Mennonite religion and I enjoyed these reflections, understanding they were mostly good-natured. There is something about a memoir, however, that leaves me feeling a bit manipulated. As a reader, I suppose it’s better to just go with it and enjoy the ride…

But a few things stuck with me after completing Mennonite in a Little Black Dress. I question Janzen’s motivations in writing this memoir. Is it self-indulgent therapy at the expense of her family, particularly her mother who comes off looking like a buffoon? And how do you trash your brothers in one chapter and gush about how wonderful one of them is as a racquetball coach? I’m wondering if she’s just capitalizing on a personal experience that she thinks will make a good story. In fiction, you can do what you want with your characters, but there is a price and a different standard when you’re dealing with real people.

SPOILER ALERT

The real sticker with me, however, is Janzen’s repeated mention from the get-go of losing her husband to Bob, the guy from Gay.com. As if she had no idea that was coming! It only comes out late in the memoir that her husband had a gay relationship before he married her. And likewise his bipolar struggles aren’t mentioned or fully discussed until late in the book. She does acknowledge her poor judgment, but there were some major warning flags flying.

So in the end I’m wondering what Janzen has accomplished here, because certainly she can tell an amusing tale, but did she get anywhere from these personal reflections? Does the reader gain any insight? I did not.

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